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Old 11-07-2018, 03:42 PM   #1
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Not had much time to keep up with all the posts lately, used to enjoy reading thru them, picked up a lot of useful tips. Just to say thanks for all the info and help I`ve received over the past few years. Spent a fair few `s and got the old girl running nice, and was looking forward to getting some miles on her, but unfortunately not to be. My partner`s condition has worsened to the extent that constant care is needed, the dreaded Dementia, and I can no longer give the A the attention I should. I don`t have room to store it and anyway I have no one to pass it to and I`m 70+ so eventually will dispose of it, at a great loss I`ve no doubt.

Will still drop by when I get the chance, forums don`t come any better than this one.


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Old 11-07-2018, 04:31 PM   #2
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Dennis,

Gods blessings to you and your family. Drop by when you can, I'm sure you've a lot of friends here. It doesn't get much better than old car people in general, and Model A people in particular.

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The older we all get, the more precious each breath seems. My Father contracted Parkinson's and Dementia in his latter years, and it was very difficult for the family to accept and care for. I hate to hear this news for you and your partner, but enjoy coming back as often as time will allow.
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So Sorry to hear of your misfortune. Life and good health are truly a blessing. We sometime take it for granted. God's blessings to you.
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Best of luck to you, and yours, in the future.
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Dementia is a cruel and difficult disease. I wish you and your partner well.
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Hope your partner is comfortable and it seems you have accepted it. Hope you can look back at good times you had with her and also hope your A gave you pleasure too. I wish you both well. gary
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Just lost my partner of almost 44 years and am taking it one day at the time, and as Woofa says remembering all the good times we had with the two of us AND with our children, grand children and four Great Grand Children, Jim Langley...
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Just lost my partner of almost 44 years and am taking it one day at the time, and as Woofa says remembering all the good times we had with the two of us AND with our children, grand children and four Great Grand Children, Jim Langley...

Jim , i'm Sorry to read of your loss .

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So Sorry to hear of your misfortune. Life and good health are truly a blessing. We sometime take it for granted. God's blessings to you.

What Mag says X two !!!
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Do check in with us whenever you can. Maybe by then we will have figured out why we love these old cars and the heroes that fix 'em and drive 'em.
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Old 11-07-2018, 09:13 PM   #12
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Dennis, it isn't the end of the road but for sure a very rough one to travel.

Make a visit here when you can and rely on us friends to help you through this difficult time.

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Facing my own decline, I become more aware the effects of the decline of others. Best of luck with your very trying situation!
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Just lost my wife of 61 years in late August and to add to my grief my dear cousin (and like my twin) of 80 years passed early this morning from an infected ulcer she has only had for a week, this is almost unbearable and I can understand how it affects your interest in the Model A, our life seems to change after 80.
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Old 11-08-2018, 09:36 AM   #15
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Sorry to hear your news Dennis. If I can be of any help give me a shout
I live near Basingstoke so not so far away from you

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Just lost my wife of 61 years in late August and to add to my grief my dear cousin (and like my twin) of 80 years passed early this morning from an infected ulcer she has only had for a week, this is almost unbearable and I can understand how it affects your interest in the Model A, our life seems to change after 80.
my heart goes out to you Barry.
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Death is so final isn't it. The end of a life. It is also terrible for those left behind, I always feel so sad for them. I hope the loneliness is substituted somewhat by memories of good times.
I have a letter written to my grandchildren to be given to them after my death. It is clear and simple, stating what I wish for. That is for them to grow up to be good citizens. My children have met that criteria so far.
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Old 11-08-2018, 01:39 PM   #18
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Hi Dennis, i happen to be in a comparable situation. My wif has a Waldenstrom cancer as well as a serious liver degeneration. Meaning her speach and behaviour are changing. I take care of her as an almost fulltime job. What stays is the feeling of being alone, even before she dyes !
Still, i learned you have to have something positive to cling to. I am finishing my model A, be it just an hour a day. Bought another vintage moped to restore ... Be it just an hour a day ... While she is sleeping.
Don't know what else to say. Feel very sorry for you, but do NOT forget yourself ! Fulfill your needs as much as possible.
I am sure a Barner will show up willing to put your model A in a garage close to your home ...
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Old 11-08-2018, 11:36 PM   #19
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Old 11-09-2018, 01:48 AM   #20
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Take care young chap, and do your best to stay sane. I'm sure someone will take up loving your Model A for you. I got my first break as a young Yankee while a student in your city.

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That's not the end of the road, it's only the crest of a hill. Once you top that rise, the rest of the world will appear before you. May you have the strength to handle with dignity all that is coming.
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Old 11-09-2018, 03:57 AM   #22
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Thank you everyone for your thoughts, reading thru the posts it makes me realise there is always someone worst off than yourself. It doesn`t lessen the grief but sharing it helps. Until it strikes you don`t realise what an impact dementia has on the sufferer, life will never be the same, for either of us. I will come back as time dictates but meanwhile many many thanks for posts...

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Thank you everyone for your thoughts, reading thru the posts it makes me realise there is always someone worst off than yourself. It doesn`t lessen the grief but sharing it helps. Until it strikes you don`t realise what an impact dementia has on the sufferer, life will never be the same, for either of us. I will come back as time dictates but meanwhile many many thanks for posts...

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I have a theory that the person least affected by the likes of dimentia is the sufferer. Apart from at the beginning, they don't know what is happening to them and live in an endless state of carefree bliss. I've watched it happen to friends' wives. That may sound harsh but they certainly don't have a worry in the world and trhat is a very different proposition from having an active mind in a failing body.
Again, I wish you the best through your ordeal.
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Hi Dennis, i happen to be in a comparable situation. My wif has a Waldenstrom cancer as well as a serious liver degeneration. Meaning her speach and behaviour are changing. I take care of her as an almost fulltime job. What stays is the feeling of being alone, even before she dyes !
Still, i learned you have to have something positive to cling to. I am finishing my model A, be it just an hour a day. Bought another vintage moped to restore ... Be it just an hour a day ... While she is sleeping.
Don't know what else to say. Feel very sorry for you, but do NOT forget yourself ! Fulfill your needs as much as possible.
I am sure a Barner will show up willing to put your model A in a garage close to your home ...
This is good advice. A person often needs 'something' to keep themselves grounded in trying times. Just an hour of 'escape' at a time can help keep a person from losing their minds.
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Yes, I believe Synchro909 is correct. Those living with the fairies are happier than those living with ailments and pain.
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Sorry for your situation but the car gave you joy for a good while. In reality we al are just caretakers for these wonderful machines. I too am now a full time caregiver. I am privileged to be able to do it but putting miles on the A has suffered. We have a wonderful group of folks in the Alamo As and some of us meet each week for breakfast which maintains contacts. Time moves on but what a privilege to have journeyed with The A and such great people.
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Always hate to hear of these things, and count my lucky stars we are not there yet. There is nothing we can do about a lot of life's situations but accept them and move on the best way we can. Be thankful for all the good years and good times you have had!

Best wishes and Sympathy's to all in these bad situations. To the rest of us, let us not forget those friends with these problems, and keep in touch with them...
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We all are thinking of you an offering out support. One day at a time, sweet Jesus!
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Dennis, hoping for the best for you and your afflicted partner. Sorry to hear of this. Life can get kinda rough but it works out you will both do OK. Have faith in the Almighty, He is in control.

I had a friend whose Dad went thru Dementia. He was as happy as a lark, was always in a good mood he lived a good life right up to the end. Smiling and laughing every time we went to see him! I hope you two experience that.

I always enjoyed reading your posts. Take care.
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Thank you for the kind words about the forum. That's a sad turn of events for you and your partner. The best of luck to you.
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Dennis, I too have been through this with both my parents. Mother had Alzheimers, and Father with vascular dementia with very small strokes. I wish you the best and hope you have local support - family, perhaps church, and hopefully there are local support groups. All of which can help ease the trying times now and in the future.


By accepting the support of others, you may be able to anticipate the challenges of staying 1 or more steps ahead of your partner's decline.
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Again thank you all for your thoughts, it`s a learning curve and yes my partner doesn`t know my suffering she is in her own world. There is always someone worse off, my thoughts are with the people caught up in those dreadful fires. I had hoped that we would be making a trip over the pond and maybe meeting a couple of you but I guess that`s out of the question now, anyhow again your thoughts are much appreciated, must get back to the chores......
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